Respectful Communication Is The Key TM
Peace is a Moment-by-Moment Choice ...
Kids already live this .... one minute they're arguing-up a storm, and the next they're the best of friends! We see this all the time on the playgrounds, in the parks, and especially when siblings interact!
As adults, though, we tend to forget how to use this important life skill. We choose, instead, to hang on tightly to the perceived wrongs of our past, hold resentments against those we believe have harmed us, and act in ways making it crystal clear we want nothing to do with the other person.
But, what if that person is the other parent of your child(ren)? And, what if, in the best interests of your child(ren), and/or because it is Court Ordered, you absolutely must interact with the other parent in a respectful shared-custody/ parenting relationship?
You're now in the "business" of raising your child(ren) cooperatively with your son and/or daughter's mother or father. Regardless of what has transpired between you two in the past (even if it's in the "recent" past), you must now put that aside and learn to work together ... Just like you would with someone in your professional life who might not have the type of personality you particularly like, but with whom you have to work cooperatively and respectfully if you want to keep your job. Working together with the other parent of your child(ren) is now your primary "business." Not only is it what's in the best interests of your child(ren), it will, in the long run, add to your child(ren)'s feelings of security, stability and happiness when Mom and Dad are no longer always fighting about custody and parenting times.